A Lost Friend

•February 9, 2010 • Leave a Comment

Recently my best friend had a rough go of things. Her wife left her with no warning, cut up her sons clothes and trashed her house. We took them in, got their lives back in order, set up their budget to keep the house, got new cell phone for them, the works… Billy and I put 100% of ourselves into that family, which I love and she is going back to her. She is letting the person who hurt her kids, broke her heart, tore up her house, made her lose her car, and so much more and she is letting her back.

Ness and Marc are good kids. They support their mom and who she is but those kids don’t like the lady because she treats them with no respect. I have to stay out of this but it is breaking my heart to see her hurt her kids and herself again. I do think her letting her back in her life is going to limit our friendship. She is not going to be able to come play games, we are not going to be able to have dinner 3-4 times a week with the fams. I feel like her going back with this girl is the end of this friendship. I don’t want it to be, I am not going to give up. I love those kids, I love her friendship, I guess I have to stand by her.

I am afraid because we have to move we are not going to be here to save her next time. Maybe that is a good thing but I am so very afraid of when that day comes. The news of her return crushed my heart, I can’t even imagine what it did to those kids.

Sewer Update

•February 9, 2010 • Leave a Comment

Yesterday the plummer was here for four hours. When he fixed the upstairs plumbing we went downstairs to make sure all was good. All was not good. Now the upstairs and downstairs showers were flooded, the laundry area was completley flooded. The flood unfortunatley was not just water, it was full of crap. Horrible! I felt so dirty. Once the plummer left I spent the rest of the day shampooing the basement, scrubbing floors, and disinfecting everything.  I am getting ready to go shampoo one more time to make sure its super clean. A friend of mine from the Retreat let me come pick up the carpet dryer today so I have been running that which should also help. I am not sure how to clean between walls and behing light sockets but that is something I will work on.

This morning we woke up to a freezing house. Yes! our furnace went out. When it rains it poors is an under statement.

Now I have heat and usable toilets and showers. After another two days of cleaning I should be back on track to getting the house back in order. What a disaster.

Shitfall

•February 8, 2010 • Leave a Comment

This morning Billy woke up to take a shower with a very rude greeting. He came to say good bye and tell me of the issue. I wake up to the sound of an indoor waterfall. Much to my suprise it is not just water… thats right theres shit in the water. Apparentley when the people “helping” us with our bathrooms tore out the drywall they decided not to cover the drain to the tub. Since both bathroom upstairs are connected to the same drainage system (both showers and both toilets), the toilets backed up into the showers, poop and all and poored down into the walls of the basement. Water is oozing from the electrical outlet in the bathroom downstairs. That has to be real safe. Also our closet in our bedroom down stairs is flooded which is where Mick sleeps at night.

Billy an I ventured out to Home Depot this morning to get the most powerful and largest ShopVac we could find, a snake and disinfecting wipes. We came home, I vaauumed the shit water downstairs while Billy attempted to snake out the drywall paste from the drains. Unfortunatley snaking did not help. Colorado Sewer is now supposed to be here to find out why its still leaking and why snaking didn’t work. My two hours waiting period is up and I am trying to be patient. I have lite four candles hoping to keep the house from smelling too gross and I am running around cleaning anything we could have touched after cleaning up some of the first flood.

I can’t wait for something good to happen in our life. Both bathrooms have had the plumbing redone, this will be round three. The water heater has been replaced, the heater had been repaired but still is broken, the appliances have been replaced, I can’t take too much more going wrong with this house. I wish I could focus on moving and getting Billy fixed.

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Christmas Cruise 2009

•January 23, 2010 • Leave a Comment

The Boat: Carnival Conquest

When: December 20th thru the 27th

Who: Grams, Aunt Barbara, Auntie, Melanie, Dad, Billy and I

The Itinerary:  20th – Leave from Galveston

                               21st and 22nd - Fun Days at Sea

                              23rd – Jamaica

                             24th – Grand Cayman

                            25th – Cozumel

The cruise was scheduled to leave on December 20th at 4pm. Billy, Dad and I decided to drive to Galveston and meet the rest of the family there. Friday the 18th I had a Christmas party to cater therefore not much time to pack. The catering went well thanks to help from Ness, Auntie and Kev. Unfortunatley I had to leave town at three so Auntie and Kev had to clean up for me. I was so excited to get Billy to sea level I didn’t seem to feel bad like normal but honestly couldn’t have done it without them. I went home at 2:30. Packed as quickly as possible, packed the car, went to the bank, took Ness home and headed to pick up dad. Needless to say we were running a bit late. The three of us got in the car, got gas and were finally headed south about 5:30. We drove till about midnight and made it to the south east side of Amarillo, TX. We stayed at a dumpy hotel just to get a little shut eye.

On the 19th we woke up and hit the road about 8am. Dad played on his computer most of the time. He got his business finances entered for the year and got caught up on all his emails. It was weird having internet in the car but it kept Dad and I entertained while Billy drove. Outside of Dallas we called an old family friend who lives in Houston and asked if he would meet us for dinner. I called and made reservations at the Rainforest Cafe (one of my favorites). We decided to play it safe and make the reservations for 7pm giving us time to check in to the hotel and settle in before running to dinner. The plan was not so great after we spent 2 extra hours in Houston traffic. So we had to rush to check in, drop our stuff and run to barely make the reservations.

It was great to see Phil though. He doesn’t seem to love Houston but maybe we could see him more after we move closer. Everyone seemed to love the Rainforest Cafe just as much as I did except… Melanie. If you have ever been to the Cafe you would know there are robot rainforest animals. Snakes, Apes, Elephants, etc… The lightning storm started and the animals started to move and Melanie freaked. She refused to eat with us and went to sit in the bar where it was “safe” from the jungle. Hmmm, wonder what robot monkey attacked her when she was a kid? Anyways, dinner went great and I was thrilled to be in Galveston. I LOVE Galveston. The next morning we all woke and met at the free breakfast bar at the hotel. We chatted for a while since there was no rush, we didn’t need to be at the boat till noon. I had a Texas shaped belgain waffle, yumm and fun! Billy and I decided to break from the fam and walk on the beach and grab some real estate brochures. The brochures were useless but the beach was beautiful, the gulf waters were very calm.

We walked back to the hotel and asked the fam if we could go to the dock early to check in early. Everyone was game so we drove the 3 miles to park and then walked two blocks with everyones luggage. Good thing Billy could breathe there because he had most of our luggage, plus some of my Grams and Aunties. We made it slowly to the terminal and through the first hall, up a few ramp, through another hall, security checks where we all strip down any metal and then put ourselves back together. Putting seven people back together takes a few minutes but we all gather our stuff and head to the tickets booth. We get our passports checked and were given our lifelines for the week. A blue credit card looking thing that had our identity so the boat knows when we get off and back on and the only way to purchase anything on the boat. We were then instructed to go sit on the floor. This was odd because we were supposed to be able to walk on the boat and settle in before embarking on our cruise. Everyone was antsy, sitting on a hard floor with Grams was frustrating. There were lots of chairs but we weren’t allowed to go there. Soon the entire terminal, even the lines people were sitting with their luggage. Then a few Carnival employees started passing out apology letters. From whispers around the terminal, “this has never happend before.” Of course not! What had happend was the ship came in late and the previous cruise folks were still on board which is why we couldn’t get on. Makes sense, bummer, but its vacation, it will be ok. We finally went through another hall, got a snap shot of our group and headed to the boat. Because things were not going as planned the crew instructed us to go to one place “The Lido Deck, floor 9″ which is where the buffet is. We were supposed to be served luch but it ended up being almost dinner time. Getting seven people and all there luggage in a buffet line is a bit stressful. Billy and I stayed with the luggage so others could eat, we were going to wait for dinner in the Renoir Dining Room. Once everyone was back to their seats we took our luggage to the main deck on level two. Our room was 2268 and it was ready. It was so nice to unload all of our luggage, six hours of baggage was quite enough.

 

Billy and I told everyone we would meet them at Dinner at 6pm, there was a map of the boat when we first got on, it was our friend that first night. After we were settled in we made sure our cameras were charged, took a few pictures then went walking around the boat checking things out before dinner.

This is what we found when we first walked in: Billy said “Look, they left us a Vagina”

Right before we were heading to dinner the intercom told us we had to do safety drills at our Muster station. We headed to our Muster station D to meet out Lifeboat. Apparently our life boat will float with 150 people and/or completley filled with water. I would prefer mine not be filled with water if I had to use it but if telling people it will float even filled with water comforts someone then more power to them. After the thousands of people managed to leave the one deck we then headed to dinner. We didn’t see any of the fam and they told us the dining room fills up fast and we can’t sit unless the whole fam is there. So we sat down by ourselves and they held a small table next to us for the fam. We watched the door and no fam… Dinner took us 2 hours, it was a really long and slow dinner and a bit stressful since I didn’t know where my fam was. We both had a steak and some weird macaroni stuff.

After dinner we headed back outside to see us moving further from Galveston. After we got too chilled to be outside we headed inside for the Welcome show. It had dancers sorta like in Vegas just not as grand. We decided to make it an early night and hit the sack around 11 since it was a long day and I didn’t know what else to do.

The 21st and 22nd were “fun days at sea”. I put this in quotes because that is what the crew called them. They were the days you are stuck on the boat with not much to do. We thought we would go to the adult deck and sun bath up top. After breakfast we went to the back of the boat and pretty much got blown away. Because we were going cruising we brought swim suits and shorts, we did not dress appropriate for the weather. It was very nice to get away though, Billy could breathe and there was unlimited food anytime of day. We stuck to the basic breakfast and dinner with the fam and snacks around lunch time. We did learn to bring butter from the lunch buffett to take to dinner. The dinner butter tasted like fish.

Grams liked to flirt with the waiters at dinner. It was pretty cute.

Even though we didn’t always know what to do on the fun days at sea we did enjoy the sceneries, the photographers, the hot tubs and relaxing. Because Billy could breathe, I could sleep. It was hard to get to sleep because the constant rocking but once I was there it was good and long sleep. We were both enjoying that.

My first drink, I think it was only $12, the very reason I only had 3 drinks the whole trip.

After the photographers made us twist into akward positions we went outside to mock the situation in our own windy photos.

Fun Day at Sea #1 did have a lobster dinner which I enjoyed. Food excites me.

At dinner dad kept having to borrow Auntie’s flower reading glasses which was pretty funny.

The towel buddies.

Heading to the casino to fill up some “fun day at sea” time.

Hot tub fun after my swim suit broke, walking back to the room after it was hanging to my knees.

I will work on getting the really great days posted soon. River day, Dolphin day and Ruins day still to come.

Dead Gift

•January 23, 2010 • Leave a Comment

Two posts in a day is a bit much but I figured it was time to have a more positive note. I ran an errand after my enormous break down today and when I returned I completed my cakes and decided to sit and watch a movie to try and get rid of my awful headache. I went downstairs to pick a movie and at the bottom of the stairs a fluff of feathers were scattered about with a fairly large dead bird in the middle. I ran upstairs to get my camera and Jack ran downstairs to move the bird. I chased him away, took a picture so I had a story to tell Billy when he got home, and threw the poor bird away and vaccuumed the feathers. It was very gross but a little funny. It will only be funny if this does not become a daily ritual.

Shortly after out friend Kev came over and took us to the Claim Jumper. We had beef ribs and apple pie, it was wonderful. Getting food in my system helped a tiny bit with the headache as well. So, even though I had the biggest break down of my life today… it ended up ok. I will try and have more positive posts.

Here is the wonderful gift from Jack:

Snot and Tears

•January 22, 2010 • Leave a Comment

As I sit here in a river of my own snot and tears barely able to see the screen in front of me I wonder…

Am I really this selfish? So I can’t heal my husband and neither can the doctors, he is alive. So I can’t pay half the bills, at least I have bills to be paid and a wonderful house to live in. So the bathroom is going to cost four times the original estimate because the plumbing is shot, at least I have one working restroom and running water. Why am I being a cry baby over all these blessings?

I sit here in a field of worries with no way out. I try and talk myself out of them and then I get another bill, another non-conclusive verdict from the doctor and no one to comfort me. Because these things can’t be changed by me, only God himself could change my life at this point, should I worry? How do I not worry, people tell me not to stress, How do I do that? I would love to know.

My snot and tears are slowly drying up with the occasional rush back to life when I find my lights at the end of the tunnels darken up by more bad news. Hang in there, God will take care of me, I am not alone I keep telling myself. But all day today I sit here alone with no solutions to my current predicaments. Oh how I need a big hug!

Yet Another Road Block

•January 21, 2010 • 1 Comment

After this weekend I was encouraged to keep on truckin’, until today…

I woke up late and rushed out the door to work. The man fixing my bathroom couldn’t find the tiles to fix the tub and shortly after we realized the tiles were accidently thrown away. Now I have to special order hand painted tiles and wait yet another week and $60.00 to fix the bathroom. Great!

Before Billy’s stress echocardiogram today I went through the mail and noticed I was charged almost $400.00 for all of our prescriptions. Our insurance deductible of $4000.00 was maxed out in August so we haven’t had to pay anoything out of pocket. I decided to call after Billy’s appointment to figure out what was going on. Billy did well but we won’t hear the results till the end of the week. While we were at the doctors they said we would be billed for todays visit.

When I got home I called to inquire why I am being billed for anything. My insurance renews at the end of the month which is when my deductible should start over. After three phone calls I was finally told my deductible renewed December 31st instead of January 31st. Great again! Another $4000.00 I don’t have that I have to come up with quick.

After a mini break down I checked in with the bathroom repair man and the situation was worse than expected and that is going to be more money and time. I need a break, a big break. I try and stay strong but days like this beat me into the ground and I can hardly keep my head up.

I Hate Laundry

•January 18, 2010 • Leave a Comment

Yesterday was not so productive. Billy and I sat around watching movies and hangin with the dogs. It was nice but I felt guilty all day. I have so much to do and so little time to do everything. Today I decided to tackle the clothes room. The dreaded room we throw all our clothes from the dryer to the floor and scrounge for an outfit every morning. Not a great system but its our system. Today I managed to hang up every hangable item, matched all socks and folded all the tshirts and towels. I even vaccuumed when all was said and done. Now the room looks more like a walk in closet.

I have three loads of laundry to finish in the wash, as long as I can stay motivated to keep it clean I should be all caught up. I think tomorrow I will put away all my Italian dishes and go buy some plastic boxes to organize B’s office. Just keep at it, I will get there.

Oh wait, I almost forgot to tell y’all a funny story. When I got home from errands today I walked in the kitchen and there were little grey feathers everywhere. I am pretty sure Jack found a play mate today and murdered him in our kitchen. I haven’t found the little guy anywhere, hopefully Jack took him back outside. Silly animals!

Today’s Accomplishments

•January 17, 2010 • Leave a Comment

Day three of the hard core house work. Billy went with a family friend, Kevin, today. He went shot gun shootin’ then to play video games. While he was gone I had breakfast with my best friend Joy then came home to work on the office. Shortly after my aunt Sheila, uncle Rob and their friend Debbie came over to help. Debbie clean cleaned the bathrooms. My uncle touched up the paint in the basement bathroom auntie and I painted yesterday. It looks great! No holes in the wall and coordinating colors. Auntie helped carry storage to the garage that Joy and I gathered together. The office has not been this clean since we moved in. It looks great.

“Spring” cleaning a house seems to make the house messier than before. The kitchen is a disaster and the dust bunnies are ruling the carpets. Tomorrow I will tackle our clothes room. See Billy and I have a system that is very “bachelor”. We wash the clothes, dry the clothes, then throw them on the floor in a pile in our “clothes room”. :) This is not a great system. We frequently walk around with millions of wrinkles in our clothes. So tomorrow I will fold and hang everything. If it is wrinkly I will rewash it and hang it up right out of the dryer like normal people. After the clothes room is done I plan to vacuum the abundance of dust bunnies that are spread throughout our house. Since it will be Sunday I will probably stop there. If I have any energy I hope to tackle the kitchen but lets not get to ambitious.

Thank you to everyone who has helped me in one way or another the last couple days. Hopefully B will come home from a good restful day and will stay busy tomorrow while I get a couple more chores done. I think the house looking nicer may help our stress levels. Since I’m not a fan of cleaning it may be more stress to keep it clean but its so enjoyable when your all done.